How To Live With An Abusive Husband

First off, if you live with an abuser it is not your fault. Abusers can be quite charming and masters at deception.  They may have deceived your family and friends with their charm, making it hard for you to find anyone to console in. “He couldn’t have done that!” “He’s such a nice guy!” However, … Read more

4 Words

4 Words Words that have meaning do not come easy  A  word is just the tip of the iceberg  of experience Year  of   Loving  Losing  Living.. Years culled with precious time that lead to the understanding that give words meaning The understanding  that only comes with the experience paid with a lifetime Meaning does not  … Read more

“An unexamined life is not worth living.”–Socrates

Through this blog, I’ve begun to really examine my life. I’m writing about what I have learned along the way and what I still need to learn. I’m reflecting, taking steps back from my life to see where I’ve been, and then using that to look forward to see where I’m going. I’m looking for … Read more

The Blended And Extended Family

The blended and extended family seems to be the norm today. When I grew up, it was something people barely spoke about. For me, this was all I knew. I even remember feeling the tiniest bit lucky to have more than one dad. How many pre-school kids were seasoned travelers and honorary flight attendants? My … Read more

Perfect Just The Way You Are Now

There are a couple of things that I’ve tried to impart to my daughters. One is to always pay attention to and follow your intuition. Walk away from anything that gives you a bad vibe. Another is to be responsible for yourself and for those around you. Something else I would like to and should … Read more

The Wonder Of A Snake And The Outdoors

There is something about seeing a wild animal in nature that thrills me to no end.  Some years back I was hiking with a boyfriend and his son. I usually walked ahead of them and this time was no different. We hiked for about two miles and towards the end of the trail I rounded … Read more

From Puberty to Menopause….What Happened?

(update 9/18/20 — additional link from verywellhealth.com) When you’re a young teen and female life seems unbearable. Your hormones are raging, your body is changing, you start menstruating, and pimples seem to be popping out everywhere. And with all that and more going on you also try to make yourself presentable to someone that you … Read more

The You, Before

Change is a given, people change, and people change you. Circumstance changes you. Through all this change, you stay who you are,  just a different version. But none of those versions of you, are the real, the original. The before… So this is to you before. You, before childhood, turned into responsibility, before you had … Read more

Loneliness

Loneliness has many faces. It can be a self-defining moment of strength, or it can place you into a dark hole of depression. At one time or another, we have all experienced a bit of loneliness. Regardless of how we may have found ourselves there, it can at times be good to sit with those … Read more

Body Image

I’m 36 years old, 5’5” tall, and weigh 161.0 lbs (as of 08/08/18). My starting weight was 219.2 lbs on 01/31/18. So let’s get this straight. I have NEVER been a skinny girl. I have always had more hips, boobs, and butt than most in my age group, no matter what age I was. I … Read more