I’m Moving Out

I think it was January or February of 1989. It had to be one of those months because it was ass cold outside as I was standing at a bus stop in Chicago, waiting to catch a ride home with my dear friend. We were wearing dress shoes and our Class A military uniforms (for … Read more

Boddie Born Anencephalic

When we decided it was time to have a child, I wasn’t that person that could think about getting pregnant and have it happen. It took me about 2 1/2 years. I remember thinking maybe a child wasn’t in my future. I thought about that for a few days and decided I was ok if … Read more

Keep The Self-Talk Positive

Why is it so easy to tell someone else how great they are, and so hard to tell ourselves? Keeping the self-talk positive is key to our overall health and wellness. It feels great when I tell others they’re a good person, and how smart, beautiful and strong they are. Or, what an amazing mom … Read more

Defamation Of Character

A person’s character is an important thing and can be entirely subjective. Once labeled, you may have a hard time changing the opinions of others. Human nature allows us to pass judgment while never having met someone, solely based on the rumors or even stereotyping. Better still an opinion about someone’s real character can be … Read more

#MeToo

As we all know, Me Too is a movement against sexual harassment and sexual assault. This movement keeps growing, the stories keep coming, and more women (and men) are finding the courage to speak up. I don’t think any of us have a sense of the magnitude of the problem. I’ve dealt with it. Early … Read more

Aging With Grace

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day about aging. I’m not sure why this particular subject came up, but we were talking about how people (especially women) feel they have to live up to what they see on the screen or see in magazines. Instead of being happy with the way … Read more

Life Lessons

I do not remember the last time I had a life lesson. The thing about life lessons is that they do not happen on a daily basis but appear sporadically, lessons that are sprinkled in throughout our existence. I was in fifth grade when I first crushed on a girl. Her name is Esther Chavez. … Read more

Tackling College Financing

Lisa has asked me over and over again to post. I have been hesitant to do so because I’m not an expert in this area. All I can do is let you know how our family got through paying for two college educations. This all started when my oldest daughter decided to accept an offer … Read more

The Blended And Extended Family

The blended and extended family seems to be the norm today. When I grew up, it was something people barely spoke about. For me, this was all I knew. I even remember feeling the tiniest bit lucky to have more than one dad. How many pre-school kids were seasoned travelers and honorary flight attendants? My … Read more

What Older Men Want In A Woman

At the age of 55 and after a 27-year marriage, a 4-year relationship with a woman after my divorce and a whole lot of research and thought, I think I might have this whole relationship thing figured out. That is a “relationship” with another woman. Actually, I’m about 90 percent sure what I’m looking for … Read more