When you wake up in the morning, you never know what life may hold for you. I remember one morning when my girls were in elementary school, the news was on while we were getting ready for the day, and the anchors were talking about car accidents. I remember thinking, “I wonder how people would feel if they knew they would be in an accident that day?” As the girls and I left the house and headed out of our neighborhood, a woman turned in front of my van to pull into her driveway and crashed into us. Fortunately, none of us were injured. Life can change in an instant. One morning you could wake up feeling amazing and on top of the world. All the things you have been working for have finally come together. You go to work, have an extremely productive day, then you are let go from your job. Life can change in an instant. You could be having dinner with your loved ones, then all of a sudden your heart stops beating, no form of life-saving measures works. Life can change in an instant. I don’t want to make it seem like only bad things change lives in the blink of an eye because good things happen as well. The issue is that our minds tend to spin more out of control when bad things happen.
It’s so hard to remain in a positive frame of mind or pull ourselves out of the shock mode when things happen suddenly. The 7 stages of loss are very real after dealing with any negative life event.
- Shock and Denial
- Pain and Guilt
- Anger and Bargaining
- Depression, Reflection and Loneliness
- The Upward Turn
- Reconstruction and Working Through
- Acceptance and Hope
It’s extremely hard to allow ourselves time to grieve the loss of any kind…death, jobs, friendships, marriages, but it is so important for personal growth. We need time to reflect on what we ourselves just went through. We can learn so much about ourselves and become a better, stronger person in the process. We can learn how to help ourselves if the situation happens again. We learn how to help the people around us or to deal with the people around us. If we open our minds and eyes to the reality that surrounds us and are honest with ourselves we can allow something deep within to take over. That something is a passion for life. Life is precious, life is short, tomorrow is never promised so we must live each day to the fullest.
I am a firm believer in gratitude, positive thinking, a personal mantra, affirmations, and quotes. You must surround yourself with the things you want in life and distance yourself from the things you don’t. This will not keep you free from all things evil, but it will help you deal with them in a better frame of mind and allow you to come out on the other side feeling not as damaged or broken. There was a study done in 2015 that looked at the outcomes of practicing gratitude. Check it out in the link below.
I know first hand it’s not always easy to stay positive and I am the preacher of positivity. The funny thing is when I get down, my students and friends remind me of what I just told them during class or while we were talking. Let’s just say, that’s a nice circle of life when what you say and do bounces back at you. I myself have good days and bad but I am fortunate enough to feel the love and friendship from those I have chosen to keep around me. Life can change in an instant, but you can help drive the direction by embracing the change.
Change is the only constant in life.
Embrace endings, for they give birth to new beginnings.
Every dusk brings a new dawn.
Embrace beginnings, for they are rich in hope and possibility.
Every idea was once only imagined.
Embrace change, for it, promises a new life and a chance to begin again.
There is no other way life could be.
Live in the circle of life, infinitely and happily.
Stay in the present moment, the one eternal gift of this life.
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