Why is it so easy to tell someone else how great they are, and so hard to tell ourselves? Keeping the self-talk positive is key to our overall health and wellness.
It feels great when I tell others they’re a good person, and how smart, beautiful and strong they are. Or, what an amazing mom or dad I think them to be. The problem arises when I need to feed my soul. To even think positive thoughts is almost impossible. Deep down I know who I am, but external forces make it pretty damn hard to be good to myself. When things get out of control, I blame myself. When I don’t do my best, my words are harsh. When I’m tired, it’s easy to believe all the negative hype my mind can think up. When someone criticizes me, it’s even worse. I like to store that in my emotional hate bank for later use and then pull it out when I really want to feel bad.
It’s a vicious cycle and I am not alone. I’m not sure of the reasons why so many of us do this to ourselves, but the reality is most of us do it over and over again. It’s like we don’t believe we should be happy, so we purposely sabotage ourselves. I know many people that don’t believe in the power of positive self-talk. I hope by sharing my thoughts today at least one person’s mind might have a different viewpoint on the subject.
For a moment, let’s say everything I am about to say is a bunch of crap. That being positive and telling yourself good things on a daily basis does absolutely nothing to improve you’re well being. Now, I want you to think about how filling your mind with negative thoughts might feel? Think of a time when someone told you, you were not smart? Or they didn’t like your haircut, outfit, or the way you talk. I can come up with a million different things on this end of the spectrum, but it only takes one to feel the harmful effects. If you continue to have hateful thoughts or things said on a daily basis then you will manifest that type of feeling, body language, and attitude.
It is so important to realize that what we tell ourselves does translate into how we feel and act. If a simple act of keeping the self-talk positive can change the outcome of your health and happiness, even just a little, why wouldn’t we want to try it?
So, here’s what I am suggesting. Challenge yourself to find one positive phrase or a few lines that speak to how you want to feel. Write them down on a card, or in your phone and read them to yourself once in the morning and once at night. I can promise you that simple act will be the start of great things. For some inspiration, you can see our Affirmations page, read books (a great one is “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay), listen to podcasts (On Purpose with Jay Shetty), search #affirmations on Instagram, or you can simply search for a particular topic or images for quotes or affirmations in google for your daily inspiration. I guarantee you will feel better (maybe a little weird at first) and little by little, as you increase the positive self-talk and decrease the negative, your world will seem a whole lot brighter.
Who wouldn’t want to feel better? I know I do! I will end with a beautiful affirmation to get you started.
“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. Each one of us, myself included, experiences the richness and fullness of life in ways that are meaningful to us. I now look at the past with love and choose to learn from my old experiences. There is not right or wrong, nor good or bad. The past is over and done. There is only the experience of the moment. I love myself for bringing myself through this past into this present moment. I share what and who I am, for I know we are all one in Spirit. All is well in my world.” — Louise Hay
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