I purchased a Law of Attraction planner after my daughter showed me hers. I had been looking for a simple planner so I could write down projects as Linda and I were planning them for the blog. What I actually purchased was a new way of life. I have always been a “datebook” kind of girl. I carried a datebook as far back as I can remember. I was not very good at filling in the girls baby books, but if you look in the old pages of my date books you will see when the girls cut their first tooth, said their first words, started walking and more. Technology eventually took over, and since my ex was a gadget man, he convinced me to go digital. I moved everything over to my new age “datebook”. I have to admit it was more efficient once I input everything in and less bulky. I thought it was the greatest invention until one day about 10 years later I got a virus in the device that wiped out all my information. That same virus attacked my computer where everything was backed up. You can imagine my horror. To this day, I still don’t have all the contact information I once had.
Technology continues to progress and boggle my mind. Everything is now on our phones, but the problem we face as a society is that we are addicted to the damn things. Kids don’t know how to communicate or look you in the face to say hello and don’t get me started on them knowing how to actually use a pen to write. Not only are cell phones causing us to be anti-social but they are causing physical harm. Eyes, neck, shoulders, back, hands all suffer from being on our phones day and night. I know they are convenient but what are we sacrificing for that convenience? A few years ago when the new “planners” (that’s what they call them now) made a comeback, I was thrilled. What was more exciting, they incorporated stickers to make your organizing more engaging and fun.
I hate to say it, however, I didn’t jump on the bandwagon. I had gotten used to only having one thing to carry, and I wasn’t sure I was ready for the added item in my bag. After looking at several options, I finally took the plunge and chose the Law of Attraction planner, and I am glad I did. It was a bit overwhelming in the beginning. I would say take your time and fill it out a little at a time. This is no “datebook”. This “planner” is heavy duty people! If you want to change your life, this book can do it. I signed up for the support and received beneficial information guiding me through the process of filling out the different sections. I am not writing this post to sell you a planner, I want to share life lessons and how all things happen for a reason. This planner just happens to be part of the puzzle.
Over the weekend, I was speaking to a friend of mine who I initially met online and began dating. Not long into that process, he decided my personality was too strong for him, and we weren’t a good match. We remain friends to this day, have great conversations and spend time together doing things we both love. I believe people come into our lives for one reason but end up being there for another. Sometimes you just need a little time to figure it out. This particular day, we were having a conversation on communication which led me to bring up a situation I felt led to the demise of our relationship. He also agreed and shared he had felt that instead of me asking if he would like to come to an event with me, I suggested he come join me. The differences in how we word things makes a huge difference to people regardless if we meant it one way or not. In my case, I was asking him, but my words did not come across that way. He took it as me telling him, and he didn’t appreciate it. At that moment, I was hurt and wanted to plead my case. I wanted him to know that if he had communicated his feelings at the time, I would have apologized. I never meant to offend or push him in any way, but clearly, that’s what I did.
Because I am an overthinker, I stewed on what he had told me the rest of the day. The following day I opened my email from Law of Attraction and staring at me was this, “Change Your WORDS, Change Your LIFE!” I continued to read and what it was telling me is that growing up we have been trained to use the wrong words. We have been taught that we “have” to do this or “have” to do that. When we are told that we “have” to do something, it makes us angry and creates stress in our lives. The email went on to give examples of the consequences we might experience and the ways to help correct the behavior. If we were to institute a slight shift in mindset and word choice it could make a massive change in our lives with minimal effort.
I am all about growth, learning, and becoming a better version of myself. I never intentionally choose to hurt or harm someone, and if I can learn to correct something that might unintentionally harm someone that’s even better.
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