How many times have you heard yourself say, “I don’t have time” or “when the kids are out of school” or “if I didn’t have this to do” or “there aren’t enough hours in the day”? It seems many of us have a million and one excuses why we are too busy. The real question is “Are we really too busy or do we just not want to make the time?” What determines the importance of one activity over another or how much time you will spend on any one given thing?
At what point in our lives did we say to ourselves rushing from point A to point B is the best way to spend our day? Are you able to enjoy something to the fullest if you rush in and out never having time to interact with other people participating in the same activity? Can you absorb what you learned or gain anything from that experience? Will you make human connections or cultivate relationships if you don’t spend quality time with people that are enjoying the same things you are? These are things to think about.
I have always been in constant motion. I think non-stop and on the move all day long. I’m planning, worrying, figuring, assuming, calculating and most of the time just plain making myself crazy. Some good things come out of my brain, as well as unnecessary worry and stress. Throughout my life, I have been told to slow down and quit signing up for every club or group that calls. Stop working so many hours, and just enjoy doing nothing. Honestly, the thought of doing nothing makes me crazy. Honestly being on the go is my comfort zone. It’s how I feel the most alive. The word “NO” is foreign to me. I don’t know how to say “NO’ and even when I do it feels wrong. Instead of turning down an invitation, I just balance my time. I have always juggled full-time employment, being a mom, wife, friend, and teacher. I feel as long as I have the ability and the energy to do the “one more thing,” why not do it. I enjoy an active lifestyle, friends, family, and volunteering and since changing certain aspects of my life was impossible, I just had to make everything fit together like a jigsaw puzzle.
There are a few inherent problems that I have realized as I have gotten older. One is not everyone is like me, nor wants to be like me. I never could understand why everyone else wasn’t able to fit as much into their day as I was. I became frustrated and upset with my friends if they didn’t want to go somewhere or do something. I had no understanding of the word “RELAX.” To me sitting on the couch and enjoying a quiet evening at home was boring as hell. Who wants to do that?! I remember my youngest daughter wanting to have game night, and I would tell her “later sweetie, we don’t have time right now.” Her little face would drop, and she would shuffle away. Now I crave for that young women to spend a quiet evening with me. I regret not slowing down enough to enjoy the little things. Instead of always seeing the big picture, maybe I should have seen what was right in front of my face.
I can tell you that if you really put your mind to it, you can do a lot more than you think you can, or maybe want to. What I have learned as the years go by is that you can be more productive than you are, you can run around crazy and do a million and one things. The cautionary tale, however, is that the destination really doesn’t matter. What matters is that you enjoy the journey along the way. That really is what life is all about.