You’ve probably heard the statement, be your authentic self, before. I have and recently I heard or read the following question, Are you betraying your authentic self?, in a social media post and it got me thinking. Maybe I should define authentic self first. Being your true authentic self means what you say in life aligns with your actions. Your authentic self goes beyond what you do for a living, what possessions you have, or who you are to someone else (ie..mom, brother, girlfriend). It is who you are at your deepest core. In researching this subject, I discovered a few things about myself. Without even knowing it, I have betrayed my authentic self.
Have you ever compared yourself to others? I think most people do. I think that when you compare yourself to others and wish you could be more like them, you’re telling your inner self that you’re not good enough the way you are. It’s not always easy to do, but I try to remember that I’m a unique individual and there will never be anyone like me. No one else has the same perspective on life that I do.
Another betrayal of authentic self is pretending to be someone that you’re not by hiding your flaws, wrinkles, and mistakes. Is it dishonest to have others believe that you’re perfect and have it all together? I try to be proud of myself and not think of myself as not being enough. I am enough. There’s a phrase that I’ve used before — you’re perfect just the way you are, warts and all.
How about this phrase — you complete me. How many of you have been in a relationship with the hope that your partner will fix you? I don’t think you can ever have a satisfying relationship with anyone else until you have the best relationship with yourself. The relationship with yourself should be your priority. Remember that, whether you’re in a relationship or not, you are the one you spend all your time with.
And, I’m still learning to be present and in the moment. The present moment is all I have. I can’t change the past and there are no guarantees for the future. I try not to let my past dictate my future, or let the promise of a better future take away my joys of today. I try to embrace my circumstances and the lessons life is presenting to me.
I guess when it comes down to it, it’s about self-love and accepting myself, loving who I am and where I’ve been. It’s time to stop betraying myself with my thoughts, actions, and beliefs.
“If you are your authentic self, you have no competition.” — Anonymous
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